Tuesday, October 26, 2010

Mothers

I have to say, out of all the incredible things I love about our Church, there is one thing I've always been really impressed with. The Prophets, Apostles, and members of the church are always so quick to recognize the importance of women. I can't tell you how many times I've been uplifted because of the things our leaders have said about our potential and significance as women. As I've become a mother, I've found that to be just as true. I've had a bit of a difficult time since having Arya. Being a stay at home mom is hard. Yes, it's sometimes hard to do the things a mom has to do, but that's not what I mean when I say being a stay at home mom is hard. What's really difficult is looking at the rest of the world, the accomplishments of everyone out there, and thinking "What am I really doing?". Sometimes, it does get to me that my friends have all graduated. That they have careers, money, leisure time. Sometimes I think "Should that be me?".

Then, I stumble upon something like this:

When the real history of mankind is fully disclosed, will it feature the echos of gunfire, or the shaping sound of lullabies? The great armistices made by military men or the peacemaking of women in homes and neighborhoods? Will what happened in the cradles and kitchens prove to be more controlling than what happened in congresses?- Neal A. Maxwell.



I go through periods of time lately where I feel like I don't do anything worthwhile. But when I look at my daughter, when I think of what she will be one day, I realise that I have the most important job in the world. Is it as glamorous as some? No. Is it as easy as others? No. But the reward of knowing I am where I am supposed to be, that I am doing what I am supposed to do, is more valuable than anything else.

I love this quote by Abe Lincoln. It lifts me up when I'm having a hard time.

I remember my mother’s prayers and they have always followed me. They have clung to me all my life. — Abraham Lincoln


What mothers do is more influential than what the CEO of the largest company does. I know some of you may disagree with me, and a few years ago, maybe I would have disagreed with me. But now, as I realize the true job of a mother, I realize the true worth of a mother.

I have a million quotes that get me through the day, but I'll just leave two more, a couple of my favorites.

Let every mother realize that she has no greater blessing than the children which have come to her as a gift from the Almighty; that she has no greater mission than to rear them in light and truth, and understanding and love; that she will have no greater happiness than to see them grow into young men and women who respect principles of virtue, who walk free from the stain of immorality and from the shame of delinquency. . . . I remind mothers everywhere of the sanctity of your calling. No other can adequately take your place. No responsibility is greater, no obligation more binding than that you rear in love and peace and integrity those whom you have brought into the world. –Gordon B. Hinckley

Homemaking is surely in reality the most important work in the world. What do ships, railways, mine cars and government, etc., exist for except that people may be warmed and safe in their own home? … [The homemaker's] is the job for which all others exist. – C.S. Lewis


I admire all of you that stay at home with your children. I even more so admire those of you that aren't able to stay at home, and you work all day and then come home to do your job as a mother. You are all incredible.

7 comments:

  1. But if you are raising your daughter to be a good little mormon, you are raising her to get married as soon as her boyfriend gets back from his mission and start having babies immeadiately. So, if you're raising you daughter to become a young mother like yourself, raising a child and watching her peers accomplish things in the world, then do you still believe it is entirely worth your while?

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  2. Thanks Katie. This blog helps me see the flip side of the double life I live. I am a half stay at home mom, but I realize how hard each side of this story is. Regardless, being a mother is first and foremost. It's the most beautiful job in the world.

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  3. You're right- I will be raising my daughter in the LDS lifestyle, and I hope that she will accept it and enjoy it. But contrary to popular belief, we don't raise our daughters to get married and have children. My daughter may decide to find a career that she loves, writing, teaching, singing, etc... and I will be a very proud mother! Or she will decide she wants to stay at home with her children, and I will be no less proud of her. I can't wait to see what she becomes.

    And Kayse- I when times get tough- I imagine going to school, working, AND doing all that I have to do. You are incredible!

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  4. wow..
    To the anonymous comment (above):
    Did you not read anything this blog even said??
    Or did you just sit down at the computer today with some cynical attitude, thinking you could change anyone's perception of family life and love with some snide remark? obviously you have no children, little experience in real life, and definitely no concept of the beliefs and lifestyle of the members or the Church of Jesus Christ! otherwise you would have appreciated the message, just like everyone else did, or at least been polite enough not to leave such an ignorant comment. I mean you wouldn't even put your name on it! if you really believe you're right what are you afraid of! men who speak the truth normally possess a spine! what happened to yours? did you just lay it aside in whatever hole of hell taught you that its decent to ridicule the things that are precious and most important to others and that play the most important influence of rightousness in the world!?

    i mean why do you think this country and all other nations are in such a mess right now?! -is it not from a lack of good mothers and fathers who teach and raise their children in good homes?to believe in good things, to stand for what's right, and seek to have a positive influence in the world? The major impact in the entire world doesn't happen in senates and on battlefields, it happenes in the home first and foremost!

    consider your attitude as the ignorance spoken of for the past few centuries by men like these:
    “Ignorance and inconsideration are the two great causes of the ruin of mankind”
    --John Tilloston
    “Ignorance is not bliss - it is oblivion”
    --philip wylie
    “Nothing in the world is more dangerous than a sincere ignorance and conscientious stupidity.”
    --Martin Luther King
    "The evil that is in the world almost always comes of ignorance, and good intentions may do as much harm as malevolence if they lack understanding.”
    --Albert Camus
    i'm so thankful for people who do have an open mind and heart. for a mother and father who loved my brohters and sisters and i, and raised us to know what's right. and for a guide and principles or rightousness in my life provided by the Mormon church, which i know come directly from Jesus Christ himself and from a prophet of God!! Because theses are the only means by which any man or woman can gain true happiness in this life and eternal happiness and progression in the life to come.

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  5. To Anonymous,

    You are obviously a biggot who knows your unsavoury comment was ill conceived otherwise you would not hide behind a mask of ambiguity because you are ashamed to reveal your true identity. To you I ask, "What is so wrong with teaching a young woman to live a "mormon" (as you so vehemntly stated) "lifestyle"? You obviously have been misinformed on many issues otherwise you would not have made such an ignorant comment because any man or woman especially a father or mother would be proud to see their daughter follow such high moral standards. Especially when you consider the world we live in today, a world with very little to no code of morality. If all women respected their bodies which are the "temple of the Holy Spirit" by being modest in dress and appearance by not smoking, drinking, doing drugs, and led chaste and virtuous life styles this world would be a different place.
    It is obvious to me you have no children because if you did you would know what it felt like to love someone so completely that you would do anything, even give your life, if it meant happiness for your child. Teaching a daughter or a son to live by those standards will save them from much greif and pain in life and will bring happiness not just to "mormons" but to all Christians and all people everywhere because obeying the word of God cannot bring anyone sadness.
    Be careful that you do not judge that which is good to be evil or that which is evil to be good. Whatsoever cometh from Christ is good and is of God. Despite whether you agree with all the tenets of the LDS church or not you cannot deny that these teachings are what God has taught.If you do then you deny the words of Christ and in that case what you think has little consequence or value anyway.
    So, yes, I will raise my daughter to be a disciple of Christ.

    Sincerley,
    Ryan (Arya's dad)

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  6. Peeps better be glad I didnt see that comment until just now,
    wouldnt have been pretty

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